Forget everything you have ever been told about how to lose weight. Instead, find harmony between what you want to eat and what you should be eating. If you’re seeking control of your weight, guilt and fear are likely the primary emotions that come up when you eat foods you enjoy like as cake, fries, beer and greasy cheeseburgers. Eating the foods you should eat – like salads, kale smoothies and quinoa – can bring about feelings of control and discontentment.

Research has proved that people who find a better balance and take on a more positive and comfortable eating style have better eating habits, better physical self acceptance, are more socially and emotionally competent, are more active, sleep better, have better medical and lab tests, and even do better feeding their children.


To get rid of the weight, you have to remove the weight of negativity. Your attitude about food controls your eating behaviors, affects the way you feel and dictates your priorities. What is your inner experience related to your eating? Are you anxious and negative when it comes to feeding yourself? Do you have true enjoyment of good food? Do you listen to your natural feelings and urges that surround your eating? Do you pay close attention to your hunger, appetite, and satiety and do you respond and manage your eating in a reasonable and helpful way? Read on to find out how to start changing the way you think about food.

1. Stop calling it a diet. That implies restriction, limitation and deprivation – all things that make our brain think we are suffering. Food should be fun and enjoyable, as well as flexible and nourishing.

2. The most important element in feeding yourself well is finding STRUCTURE! Be reliable about making sure you get something to eat at regular meals and snacks. Take time to sit down for meals. This will help you be mindful and truly enjoy your food. 

3. Incorporate bad foods at meals and snacks. When you eat those foods and change the way you think about them, they become ordinary and you begin to eat them in ordinary ways. It is very freeing when you learn to trust yourself to eat enough for you. Remember, it is ok to eat the foods you enjoy in the amounts you find satisfying. You won’t go overboard if you take feeding yourself seriously, stop grabbing food when you happen to think about it and stop restricting yourself from eating what you are hungry for.

4. Do not force yourself to eat fruits and vegetables. That only makes eating them feel like a chore. If it isn’t forced, you can turn those foods into foods you eat for pleasure.

5. Trust your internal cues to let you know when you are hungry and how much you need to eat to satisfy yourself. This comes over time as you really pay attention to your own body processes.

6. Stop worrying about food and your weight. Pay more attention to how you eat, not how much and what you eat.

7. Remember: Weight does not determine happiness.